Thoughts

Over/under functioning

The last four blog posts have explored several lenses through which leaders can observe self. This week we look through the lens of "reciprocal functioning". In any two-person relationship, an emotional process is at play that manifests in over and under-functioning.  This functional reciprocity shows up in marriages, co-workers, parent-child relationships, sibling relationships, friendships, etc.…
Kirk Morrison
April 19, 2019
Thoughts

The social winds

This series of blog posts started in a tight spot. Leaders who are more able to "see themselves" are better able to function in tight spots. We have explored the leader as a part of nature & the leader as a part of a multigenerational family. This week we explore the leader as a part of…
Kirk Morrison
April 12, 2019
Thoughts

The Multigenerational Leader

The post Are you in a Tight Spot? suggests that leaders can regulate their own anxiety by becoming better observers of self. This week we look at leadership through the lens of the Multigenerational Family System. Families function in predictable ways in the presence of anxiety. In the nuclear family, the emotional process plays out through:…
Kirk Morrison
April 5, 2019
Thoughts

The Human as a Part of Nature

Last week's Blog Post "Are you in a tight spot?" explores the idea that leaders can regulate their anxiety by becoming better observers of "self". Nature is a lens through which leaders can better come to see themselves. "We regard the Human as the most important form of life on earth, the crowning achievement of God's…
Kirk Morrison
March 29, 2019
Thoughts

Are you in a Tight Spot?

Radiologist: Are you claustrophobic? Me: No. There was a confident and perhaps somewhat cocky tone in my voice last week as I answered the radiologist. I grew up in a small town where the key attraction in the park was climbing through a small diameter culvert in a tobogganing hill. In the winter we passed…
Kirk Morrison
March 22, 2019
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Grandpa’s rudder won’t save your ship

My wife and I had just moved into a new house. This was the debate over where the TV should be placed in the basement rec room: My wife: "Let's mount the TV to the wall in the corner" Me: "No way! The cords will be showing!" I have a strong aversion to "cords showing" that…
Kirk Morrison
March 15, 2019
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Are you ready to coach?

This is the final post in a nine-part series on Coaching. Are you ready to coach? Step 1 - Read #1 - Coach Like You've Been There Before #2 - What is a Coach? #3 - The Problem is Not the Problem #4 - Get You're Distinct Shit Connected #5 - Listen to me Linda…
Kirk Morrison
March 8, 2019
Thoughts

Don’t Attack, Defend or Run Away

Check out Blog Post 2 of 9 in the series on coaching by clicking here The problem is not the problem to get the most out of this weeks post. Very often the problem presented by the coachee is a third person. "The triangle is the basic building block of an emotional system. The characteristics of all…
Kirk Morrison
March 1, 2019
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Just Say It

This is the seventh in a series of nine blog posts on the topic of coaching. The interaction between the coach and the coachee comes down to three mechanisms: Listening Questioning "I"-Positions This week we will focus on "I"-Positions. Listening enables the coach to develop a deeper appreciation of what's really going on. Asking curious…
Kirk Morrison
February 22, 2019
Thoughts

The fork in the coaching conversation

This week we will explore the maturity stimulating skill of questioning. Last weeks Blog Post focused on the foundational coaching skill of listening. The mechanisms of interaction between the coach and the coachee are: Listening Questioning "I" Positions Good listening at the front end of a coaching interaction provides the leader with a picture of…
Kirk Morrison
February 15, 2019